I had two goals set for myself. The first was that I wanted to complete my PhD and the second was to write a book. As life has it before I was able to complete my PhD, I had the opportunity to work with Steven Covey and co-author a book on “Success Simplified”. I chose the last chapter so my final words would be the final thoughts with the reader. The book was published and available on my website. I received the diploma for my PhD in July 2012, and it was framed and hung within 45 minutes. The next book will be written from my research paper.
So having the opportunity to write a book entitled “Success Simplified” started me thinking about what it means to be successful. Being successful at work comes from making a positive impact. The results are more promotions, incentives, meeting goals, and better pay and benefits. People all enjoy working with someone they trust and can rely on. For this reason, you must always follow through with what you say.
So being successful means you are confident. How should you express your confidence? It is important to be confident while working simply because it allows this trend to continue. Some tasks at hand are not apparent, as a result; positive schemes reveal how work colleagues feel about one another and increase worker contributions. Expressing confidence means taking credit for your work and finding ways to develop a positive attitude. This changes between different workplaces. If, success is recorded and revealed in public to the competent workers they can take the example of other workers. Eventually delivering messages about performance levels becomes communicable. For this reason, stress and frustrations can be lessened. This is relevant today when initiating new ways of operation or helping colleagues to be prepared ahead of time such as meeting deadlines.
How to get recognized for your work? Everyone wants to be a part of the main event or attraction; therefore different measures will help to achieve popularity. However, gaining recognition still reflects the hard work. This means that the emphasis will either be put on various aspects of operations or authoritative figures. Ideally recognition can last longer if you maintain the middle ground between success and failure. This can start by making various achievements known. The focus is on continuous delivery and execution. Eventually the success becomes clearer and identifying who needs this information and how it is communicated helps workers from all different organizations. The purpose is not meant only to focus on the top of the work hierarchy. Gathering this information should be implemented using appropriate work ethics and directing information to the public. This will put success back into old job titles or their labels.
So remember “Success is not to be measured by the position someone has realized in life, but the obstacles they have overcome while trying to succeed.”
||“Act the way you’d like to be and soon you’ll be the way you act.” George W. Crane
“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.” Mark Twain.
Remember when you were growing up all you could think about was when you were grown up. We thought about the freedom and privilege we would have when we became adults. We kept saying, “Treat me like an adult”, “Let me make my own decisions”, and “Can’t I come and go as I please?” Right? So here we are all grown up with the liberty and privilege only to find out it came with a heap of responsibilities. So now we are being held accountable for our behaviours and decisions.
“It is not enough to take steps that may someday lead to a goal; each step must be itself a goal and a step likewise.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe We are answerable for all our actions, our thoughts and our behaviours, whether deliberate or unintended. We make mistakes, and when they do, we need to take the situation into control and fix it.
There is an expression that says, “You are where you are because of who you are”. Everything that happens in your life happens because of you, because of your behaviour, words and activities.
How do you become a responsible person?
- Be accountable. If your children are lively, your partner bad-tempered, your co-worker intolerable, you are always responsible for how you react. You are completely 100% responsible for your communication and behaviour.
- Stop blaming. Remember when you point your finger at others, three other fingers are pointing towards you. As you point that finger, the other person only becomes defensive, and the conversation takes a turn for the worst. Just because the other person is being foolish, does not mean you should act that way as well.
- Recognize what occurred. When you admit, “Yes, I did not call when I said I would,” you remove the necessity to make up petty explanations. “I screwed up” is a three-word sentence, when followed up with “What can I do to make it better?” it makes people eager to forgive. Your integrity gets respect.
- Emphasize the positive. Keep a positive attitude as you go through each day. Have you ever noticed that people who do not take responsibility for their behaviour are cynical and pessimistic? Anything that does not go right is always that other person’s doing. They are eternal targets. When you assume responsibility for having the life you want, you shift your focus from what went wrong to what is right. As light shift in focus turns a loser into a champion.
- See yourself unmistakably. Taking responsibility means admitting both your weaknesses and strengths. It means accepting all that is great about you. Be kind to yourself. A responsible person does not discharge their achievements. You know you have noble and positive talents. Have a complete picture of who are. A responsible person continues to develop emotionally.
- Say “thank you.” Receive the compliment When someone recognizes you, say, “Thank you.” When someone is caring or gives you a gift, say, “Thank you.”
- Practice healthy self-focus. Pondering too much about our problems, stressing endlessly about the tomorrows, regretting the past, and feeling sorry for ourselves can only lead to indulgent self-pity. It is draining. However, taking time actually to know what makes you tick, in a gentle, insightful way is the start of self-love and individual accountability.
We do not like to fail or worse yet to seem like we are failing. So we set goals for ourselves and at the same time create a “fall-back card”, we can play when we are not successful so that that we can blame someone or something. The more individual responsibility we take, the more control,and the more control we have, the more likely we will obtain our goal since there will be no reasons to use our fall back card if we fail.
Therefore, taking responsibility for our actions equals success. It also makes us feel good about ourselves and frees us of negative behaviour such as anger, fear, bitterness, resentment and uncertainty.